Truth from Dare: No patience for mediocrity

Oct. 10, 2013 | 0 Comments

BY DERIN DEREGO / Special to the Star-Advertiser

October is one of my favorite months of the year. The weather starts to get a little colder and the Honolulu party scene heats up. Although 2013 has been a busy one since the get go, this month definitely sees an influx of things to do.

Aside from large events like the Hawaii Food and Wine Festival and Hawaii International Film Festival, there’s an abundance of Halloween events like next weekend’s “Hawaii Zombie Crawl” in Chinatown and the Miss Vamp Hawaii Pageant tonight, Oct. 10, at the Hawaii Theatre.

The author and Ollie, left. (Star-Advertiser File)

The author and Ollie Chavenia, left. (Star-Advertiser File)

October is also a popular birthday month for many people in my circle — including myself.

As I get older, I definitely notice I have a lot less patience for mediocrity. If I’m not enjoying myself at a nightclub or concert, I leave. If the vibe or conversation is lackluster, I have no problem bailing. While this may seem a little insensitive, my lack of patience stems from the fact I believe my time is important to me.

I realize this might seem like I’m saying I’m better than others, but that’s not the case at all. Just because someone values their own time, it doesn’t mean they don’t think others are important. It just means other people need to think more highly of themselves and their time.

If someone doesn’t think my time is important or doesn’t treat me like I feel like I deserve to be treated, I move on. I constantly tell my friends — especially the female ones who complain about how insensitive their significant other is — that people can only treat you how you let them.

A lot of people need to heed this advice. I’ll listen to your sad story once or twice, but if you’re not strong enough or smart enough to fix the situation and you’re going to keep complaining about it to me, then you’re encroaching on my time. And I’ve already expressed how I feel about my time.

This Friday, Oct. 11, I’ll spend my time catching a few flicks at HIFF and then end the night at the launch of a new monthly party at industry hotspot Bevy in Kakaako. Foundation’s Ramyt Islam and Jimmy James bring their house grooves to this intimate gathering place for a late night party every second Friday. I suggest getting there early, or even grabbing dinner there and sticking around; although their menu consists of mainly tapas, there are enough options to get full on.

On Saturday, Oct. 12, I’ll celebrate my birthday with Honolulu club promoter Ollie Chavenia. Among other well-known parties, Ollie is probably recognized the most for being the creator of “Kids Klub” at Fusion Waikiki in the late 1990s. The party this weekend kicks off at 10 p.m. and will also mark the public opening of the newly renovated Mercury Bar off Bethel Street in downtown Honolulu. Come down and celebrate with yours truly while enjoying music from DJs Soundcheck and G-Spot.

The party will continue on Wednesday, Oct. 16, as I celebrate my actual birthday at the new “Switch Wednesdays” at NextDoor. This weekly is the first in what’s rumored to be a resurgence of Wednesday night events in Chinatown. If things take off as planned, it’ll be nice to bar hop on hump day again!
When he’s not out and about at the hottest parties and other events in Honolulu, Derin “Dare” Derego works as an account executive at a local radio station group. Reach him via email at or follow him on Twitter.

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