Truth from Dare: Quit complaining

Aug. 7, 2014 | 1 Comment


BY DERIN DEREGO / Special to the Star-Advertiser

One thing I have very little patience for is people who complain about things yet do nothing to improve the situation.

It’s one thing to voice a grievance over a nuance you really don’t have much control over. Potholes that pepper our roadways like craters on the moon, for example.

But people who continually complain about things they have some control over — e.g. their current job or financial situation — remind me of mentally unstable individuals who repeatedly bang their head against a wall.

The bottom line? If something in your life isn’t to your liking, complaining about it isn’t going to make it magically fade into oblivion. No matter how much one complains, a genie isn’t going to appear and waive a wand to make things better.

Another thing I’m not a fan of is the liberal use of the acronym “FML.” Most of you know what it stands for and I’m sure you’ll agree it’s an overused term. It’s similar to my point above, in that it’s really just another way of complaining but it has become used for such trivial things.

When you say, “My car just stalled at the mall. FML,” it’s hard for me to feel bad for you. For one, at least you have a car. Second, you’re using it to go shopping. Not to work. Not to go to the doctor. People need to stop sweating the small stuff in the big scheme of things.

STAR-ADVERTISER / 2013The author, left, at The Manor's one-year anniversary party at M Nightclub in April 2013. The party celebrates its second anniversary on Friday.


The author, left, at The Manor’s one-year anniversary party at M Nightclub in April 2013. The party celebrates its second anniversary on Friday.

Of course, it seems like the only thing anyone is sweating right now is the duo of storms heading our way. The worry is definitely warranted. Hopefully they won’t be too severe and the small break in between the pair will offer a bit of reprieve.

With two sizable weather issues upon us, it’s no surprise everyone I’ve talked to this week is gunshy about making plans. That’s completely understandable, but if you’re like me and hoping to get out a bit, there are a couple of indoor options available.

Friday marks the second anniversary of The Manor at M nightclub. I can’t believe it’s been two years since promoters Flash Hansen, Blaise Sato and Jay Kawakami started this party that put another Friday night option into play. The fellas are going big for their anniversary celebration by bringing in L.A. and Las Vegas headliner DJ Vice for the soiree. Since the club rages until 4 a.m., there’s no excuse not to make a cameo at this one.

For the family-oriented crowd, Ballet Hawaii brings their rendition of “Peter Pan” to the Blaisdell Concert Hall on Saturday and Sunday. If you were lucky enough to catch their performance of “Alice In Wonderland,” you’ll definitely be swoon over “Peter Pan.” Most of the stars are performed by principals from the Washington Ballet, including Jonathan Jordan (Peter), Maki Onuki (Wendy) and Luis Torres — who kills as Captain Hook.

I know planning to head out in the midst of two severe storms is a little ambitious, but I’m hoping for the best. You’re more than welcome to stay in and cuddle up with a book and a bottle of wine. Just don’t complain about it come Monday.
When he’s not out and about at the hottest parties and other events in Honolulu, Derin “Dare” Derego works as an account executive at a local radio station group. Reach him via email at or follow him on Twitter.

  • cw

    sooooooo true. the best thing i did was “hide all posts” from certain individuals ;)

    negative nancy’s will always exist but the best part about them is we don’t have to listen to them.