Truth from Dare: Get out of Dodge

Sep. 25, 2014 | 3 Comments


BY DERIN DEREGO / Special to the Star-Advertiser

Is it just me or is everyone getting out of Dodge these days? And by Dodge I mean the islands we call home. As someone who has moved away and back a couple of times, I definitely understand the urge to get off this rock — but that doesn’t make it any easier to watch friends take off.

In the past year I’ve seen five people I hung out with on a regular basis make the move to the continent for various reasons. A couple left in search of opportunity, proclaiming it’s hard to make really good money in Hawaii unless you know the right people.

As someone who has been in sales for several years and benefits from that altruism, I completely get it.

The others left in search of something more. I have to applaud those people for leaving because they actually have a great network of people around them in Hawaii. It would be so easy to reap the benefits of those connections and just stay put.

But like I told one of them recently, “then you’d wake up one day and this would have been your whole life.” Kudos to the risk-takers and those not content with the status quo of merely existing.

For those of us staying put until we figure out our destiny, there are a bunch of things going on this weekend to distract us.

If you haven’t been to The Party After Art yet, check it out on Friday at eleven44. The unofficial party for ARTafterDARK at the Honolulu Museum of Art is a blast and features some of the best music on one of the sickest sound systems in Honolulu. Resident DJs Loic Tambay, Captain Timo and Jesse James Lee provide an array of beats while drink specials help the crowd douse inhibitions with liquid courage.

On Saturday, celebrate the one-year anniversary of everyone’s neighborhood bar, Bevy. (Everyone in Kakaako, anyway.)

I can’t believe it’s been a year since this gem opened its doors. I always have a good time there as the drinks are superb, the food delicious and the vibe unpretentious.

If you’re up for some debauchery, head to the Love Festival on Saturday at Kakaako Waterfront Park. The annual celebration returns for another intense evening of musical sensations under the stars with four massive stages and thousands of partygoers.

As you can see, it’s another big weekend in Honolulu. I’m thankful not all the tastemakers are jumping ship, as they provide the creative options that keep me entertained and on this rock.
When he’s not out and about at the hottest parties and other events in Honolulu, Derin “Dare” Derego works as an account executive at a local radio station group. Reach him via email at or follow him on Twitter.

  • cw

    but what if our destiny is HERE. with YOU! :D

  • Kevin S Oshiro

    the Brain Drain: when a successful person in a certain career decides leaves for the U.S. mainland, gains more job experience (with more pay); live in a bigger but affordable home; he/she gets to buy more food (cheaply); this person now has the ability to get parts for his/her (Matson shipped) car cheaper. The person meets and get to network with new people; he/she is no longer the big fish in a small pond. He/she might gets married and have some kids. (The kids get older, eventually move out of the family house and have the ability to either attend college or join the military.) Then, this “brain drain” person either has the choice of returning back home (living in a small Hawaiian house) to retire or just living on the mainland for good.

  • Kevin S Oshiro

    My friend calls this symptom “Rock Fever.”