SuperCity: Facing social fears with fitness
BY CHRISTA WITTMIER / Special to the Star-Advertiser
I’ve stayed cooped up in my apartment the past two weekends. I can admit it gets quite addicting. Why would I want to step outside and face possible judgment and ridicule when I can stay indoors, saving money, listening to the music I love, eating the food I love, with my cat who — sort of, in her own way — loves me?
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It makes me wonder how many others out there find more peace in being alone than venturing out in to the night to bars, clubs and restaurants every weekend. I wouldn’t know it from being out, but I imagine there are people who make staying in as much of a routine as me and my peers do going out.
At first it sounds so weird, but in a way I am also quite intrigued by this behavior, especially now that I have had an opportunity to revel in it these past few weeks.
While my hiatus was to prepare for POW! WOW! Hawaii opening this week, others often cite social anxiety as a reason for staying indoors whenever possible. A few close friends are victim to anxiety disorders including social anxiety, which can be incredibly impairing. A few stages deeper than typical shyness, people who suffer from social anxiety disorder are so fearful of embarrassing themselves in public situations that even just interacting with people is a situation they avoid at all costs.
This makes me sad, but I am happy to see there are self-help methods that can help ease this pain. I am a huge supporter of eating a healthy, balanced diet and exercising regularly already, and this is a very solid foundation to help treat social anxiety. It is also beneficial to try joining a supportive social environment.
Perhaps getting involved with the brand new PoleArity Studio is just what the doctor ordered. I happened to meet owner Telepharaoh Brandon while DJing with him at Eurocinema Hawaii, but have seen him around some of the larger scale corporate events performing in many capacities from a DJ to a 12-foot tall LED robot shooting lasers and CO2 at the crowd. He’s got a great smile and a very positive, infectious spirit that makes it impossible not to have a good time when he’s around. As a lifelong entertainer, promoter, DJ and dancer, controlling the vibe of the crowd and making people feel comfortable is his specialty.
Brandon grew up in Chicago but has spent many years working and traveling the world, which you can see in his studio office. It’s adorned with many beautiful relics of his travels and relationships he’s made.
January marked the grand opening of PoleArity, which has already been kicking with events and classes. The studio is a beautiful second floor location in Chinatown on North King Street. It’s a gorgeous and sleek design that includes a large hardwood floor and lounge area. Fitness classes include ethnic dance, aerial arts, flexibility, yoga and (eek!) pole dancing. Of course. those who are a bit more anxious in any class might run away screaming at the thought, but it is advised that people with social anxiety disorder also face their fears.
“We have people of all ages, races, backgrounds and size.” Brandon said when I visited with him last week, nervously contemplating the eight poles situated throughout the large studio area. “You will not feel uncomfortable, I promise! If anything, you will be part of an amazing group of talented and artistic people,” he added as he effortlessly hoisted himself up onto a suspended hoop used in the aerial class.
The idea of unlocking a portal to an entirely new group of creatives who are interested in fitness for fun sounded really good.
“Our goal is to host 10 different genres seven a week and three special workshops every month,” he said.
PoleArity also hosts events for their members to socialize. This is a great step in overcoming your fears and also satisfies the exercise aspect as well. I have yet to partake in any sort of class for fitness but admit it gets boring doing the same thing each week, so I see the dance classes as having some kind of practical application for life as well.
Christa Wittmier has chronicled Honolulu nightlife since 2004. She is senior marketing director at Young’s Market Co. of Hawaii and executive director of music for Pow! Wow! Hawaii, and also helps promote the popular Bacardi Pool Party on Oahu. Contact her via e-mail or follow her on Twitter.